Wednesday, October 05, 2005
Bully
Good morning,
Bullying does not pay!
Somehow, there will always be people who bully other people.
Bullying people is easy, because people who bully others are
usually of superior strength than their victims, else they would
not dare to. It would be a wonder to know of a disadvantaged
fellow trying to bully someone stronger than himself; that would
be more like suicide.
Stories about bullies are plentiful, in books, in movies or by the
hearth. Invariably, in all these stories, all the bullies got their
just desserts in the end, like in the famous novels Tom Brown's
Schooldays and How Green was My Valley. It may be said that
these are fiction. Well, in reality, these fictions cannot match
factual episodes.
When I first entered school in 1946, there were these two boys,
slim and tall brothers. Well, one day after dismissal, there was
a commotion. These two brothers were running, their noses
bleeding and their ears tattered. Another pair of brothers, smaller
but brawny and tough, had shown them their wicked ways.
About a year later, when our school moved to its own premises
in East Coast Road, there was this boy called King Kong. He
was dark, hardy, brawny and tough; and all the boys kept away
from him. Boys like me, who only heard of him and saw him from
a distance, feared him. But then one day, his parents had to
come to school to tend and take care of him. He was beaten up
soundly. Just like in the two book stories above, another boy had
shown him fists-wise, what his victims had suffered. Bullying is an
injustice, and injustice is an eyesore, repugnant to the righteous;
and there will always be someone stronger and superior, no
matter how strong a bully is.
Bullying is often a natural disposition of those whose size and
strength had taken a load off their brains. The fruits of bullying
are never commensurate with what a bully will eventually suffer
if they persist in their ways. Bullies are also usually cowardly;
and relying on superior strength to get their way will eventually
lead them to bigger problems. Brave and courageous people
do not bully those weaker; they usually champion the weak.
Children with bullying tendencies need to be guided and counselled
immediately. It is being misguided to see being able to bully as
strength of character. Parents who condoned such behaviour,
believing it as such, delude themselves; they will end up sharing
their children's suffering sooner or later. Nobody likes to be
bullied; nobody wants to be bullied.
A small act of bullying can or will lead to a fight.
A fight will lead to .......?
People will somehow find a way to settle scores.
How does a feud begin?
A bully needs to heed this well known saying,
"Before one kicks a dog, find out who the owner is!"
Die dulci freure.
Ronald
Bullying does not pay!
Somehow, there will always be people who bully other people.
Bullying people is easy, because people who bully others are
usually of superior strength than their victims, else they would
not dare to. It would be a wonder to know of a disadvantaged
fellow trying to bully someone stronger than himself; that would
be more like suicide.
Stories about bullies are plentiful, in books, in movies or by the
hearth. Invariably, in all these stories, all the bullies got their
just desserts in the end, like in the famous novels Tom Brown's
Schooldays and How Green was My Valley. It may be said that
these are fiction. Well, in reality, these fictions cannot match
factual episodes.
When I first entered school in 1946, there were these two boys,
slim and tall brothers. Well, one day after dismissal, there was
a commotion. These two brothers were running, their noses
bleeding and their ears tattered. Another pair of brothers, smaller
but brawny and tough, had shown them their wicked ways.
About a year later, when our school moved to its own premises
in East Coast Road, there was this boy called King Kong. He
was dark, hardy, brawny and tough; and all the boys kept away
from him. Boys like me, who only heard of him and saw him from
a distance, feared him. But then one day, his parents had to
come to school to tend and take care of him. He was beaten up
soundly. Just like in the two book stories above, another boy had
shown him fists-wise, what his victims had suffered. Bullying is an
injustice, and injustice is an eyesore, repugnant to the righteous;
and there will always be someone stronger and superior, no
matter how strong a bully is.
Bullying is often a natural disposition of those whose size and
strength had taken a load off their brains. The fruits of bullying
are never commensurate with what a bully will eventually suffer
if they persist in their ways. Bullies are also usually cowardly;
and relying on superior strength to get their way will eventually
lead them to bigger problems. Brave and courageous people
do not bully those weaker; they usually champion the weak.
Children with bullying tendencies need to be guided and counselled
immediately. It is being misguided to see being able to bully as
strength of character. Parents who condoned such behaviour,
believing it as such, delude themselves; they will end up sharing
their children's suffering sooner or later. Nobody likes to be
bullied; nobody wants to be bullied.
A small act of bullying can or will lead to a fight.
A fight will lead to .......?
People will somehow find a way to settle scores.
How does a feud begin?
A bully needs to heed this well known saying,
"Before one kicks a dog, find out who the owner is!"
Die dulci freure.
Ronald
# posted by chunmu @ 8:14 PM 
